Who are You? Defining the Self and the Compassionate Observer Within

At some point in your life, you’ve probably asked the question: Who am I, really?

If you’re like many of the people I meet in my therapy office, your sense of self can sometimes feel clouded—obscured by your thoughts, emotions, and experiences. We often fuse with our inner monologue, losing sight of the broader perspective. In the process, we may start to define ourselves through the eyes of a critic or as the product of our worst moments.

In this episode, I introduce you to the “self-as-context” model from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which invites you to take an observational stance. When we can observe our thoughts with a bit of distance, we create an opening to choose how we respond, rather than react. In that space, we make room for both self-compassion and accountability.

Let’s dive into what it means to become a compassionate observer of your own mind.

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